ladies,
we all are spent/invest 8 years from
our lives and we have this one with recently start lying/blaming to people who they did not do.
I am kindly asking you to read those and behave in accordingly. My findings,
1st thing is her Spoilish Behavior at some how we should stop giving whatever she want nor she ask for,most especially when it comes to toys etc…Besides what I am seeing/feeling/hearing (from
her) is, Elif, you are really worried to hurt Idil’s feeling and that’s why you are trying to give/provide everything whatever she ask for you. Thats why Idil is feeling more safe, comfortable and motivated and happy in Akasya (she must feel happy but not because of this reason). As we have experienced today Idil knows what Mother promised, that she gonna get too many/big presents,thats why she has eager to go Akasya. I understand that you are her mother and I can only imagine the feeling being mother but if we will continue to tolerate like this behavior we will never fix Idil.
And we must/should educate her the same way in all places with three of us. Tuzla has certain rules and discipline, Cheryl, you know it and experience it, I am trying my best to discipline her, but the thing is everytime I am observing , Cheryl is trying to tell her something Isil is directly running to me asking for my help(pamper)her and i am constantly refusing her and asking her to fix it with Cheryl. If you have same in Akasya, change it and do not let the case closed. This will make person the worst one. This is not ok to be the worse neither me or cheryl or elif.
With this situation we will never fix her behavior. And the worst thing is she start lying/blaming someone on the thing they never did. Lying is not acceptable!!!!!!!! Requires serious penalty!!!
Every time i am observing/facing this situation almost everyday. Nanny do this,Nany do that,Nanny hurt me:(I dont really know why everytime when she get hurt or get Upset she’s all throwing Nanny, the blame and pointing fingers to Nanny. It is a big challenge how Cheryl, you have great patience, did manage this if it is happening everyday.
The behavior of her when we are there, must be far more better than when we are having right now. She needs to be in more disciplined environment, and in Tuzla, there is no tolerance for such spoiled approach.
Now, lying is not acceptable and no-one in here can tolerate this behavior of Idil. Spoiled behavior can silenced parents’ inner voice which is raising because of short time that we are spending with Idil. But we are working for her, her today and her future. And Nanny is with her and I am hiving my complete power to you Nanny and Elif, you must confirm your side as well. We must be proper and just for our sins, we must not continue buying presents, making favors, closing eyes to her mistakes, letting her crossing the lines: lying!
I am ready to take the responsibility to lead this change effectively-immediately tonight.
Asking your alignment with me and between both of you, must have a clear alignment which i am not seeing fully. we need it. Now on, she must attend her classes, she must read, she must play with proper toys, she stopped using ipad, it must be wiped out from
games. No youtube from ipad. If she want to play, nintendo exist just for this reason. She must play with puzzle, drum, paint with water color, draw picture, toys, swim. No new age toys, no stupid things will make Idil stupid and imbecile. I want her to experience nature, play in playgrounds, learn how to cycle, how to play with ball, tennis etc. I am asking to take her with you whenever you go out, even for shopping. Give her a tasks while you are preparing food, she must brush her teeth without reminding it, make her bed after she wake up etc.
We must make her behave “very normal” till the end of this summer. We owe her this last help! She owe us as well.
Now, effectively immediately!